Belly Dancer Vs Stripper
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From a man’s perspective: After a recent conversation with Cougar Candy Store founder Janet Williams I was really intrigued to answer this question: “What is more appealing to a man….. a Belly Dancer or a Stripper?” To be quite honest, I’ve never even given it a second thought until now. Let me tell you this….I can’t stop thinking about it. What a great question!
The Belly Dancer: “solo dance which emphasizing movements of the belly” I’ve been lucky enough to witness some amazing belly dance performances. A woman who dances with such exotic movement to music will truly take you back to a different time. Erotic and sexy. The sheer bedleh (costume) in brilliant colors draped with beads and coins and the dramatic eye make-up adds to the dancers erotic appeal. The finger cymbals are like music to my ears. I love that the curves of the belly dancer are so natural. Most are voluptuous and curvy. Men love curves! Whether women will believe me or not is another subject. A belly dancer seduces with her movements, “which I find very appealing”. Women do not need to be naked to arouse a man into great passion.
The Stripper: “One that strips” Like most men I have more than my fair share of stripper stories. I have dated a few and so on and so forth. Strippers are a sexy, bold woman not afraid to show her skin. In fact, didn’t “boob jobs” originate in “the stripper world”? Some stripping is very erotic. The right choice of music and costume makes for a complete different experience, but it seems to be a lost art, the clothes come right off for the $$$. Stripping has become cheap and gone towards that trashy sleazy look….super high heels and just a g-string! Burlesque anyone? Oh, that’s another story.
I do however, have an appreciation for the stripper who can work the pole. I find that to be a very entertaining talent. The stripper “POLE” seems to be very popular right now as many companies are putting them into personal homes. Stripping in your own home……yessssss!
My Verdict: I will take the Belly Dancer every time. I love the music. I love that the sexy clothes are part of the seduction. I love real curves and the pulsating belly drives me crazy. I love the fact that a belly dancer is treated with more class and men are not sweating over her and touching her all night. I have never seen a belly dancer be disrespected and unfortunately I have seen many strippers disrespected and unappreciated. Belly dancers are seen as a goddess. Strippers are seen as strippers and sometimes less than.
“ Be exotic, be erotic but most of all shimmie that belly”.
My Advice to Cougar Candy Women: Married, single or in a relationship take up belly dancing. It is sexy and an art form of dancing you can do forever. The exotic costumes make any woman of any shape or size very desirable . Most women are uncomfortable just stripping down and dancing naked. Belly dancing really gives you an edge of seduction and desire……no one says the costume has to stay on. How can you beat a dance of seduction and desire that has been around since the beginning of time? (I think).
“ Hell the music alone will make you and your partner shiver with arousal”
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Lately a lot of famous married men seem to be stepping out on their wives—and getting caught. The main reason they get caught is that the women they’re cheating with rat them out to the press. Who know why guys like Tiger Woods, Jesse James and David Boreanaz have steak at home, but insist on going out for dogburgers? But the motives of their consorts are pretty obvious—fame and money. The press insists on referring to these women as “mistresses.”
In days of old, a “mistress” was a woman who was “kept” by a married man, often a wealthy one. The “other woman” respected her man’s wife and family, and in return for being supported in style, she kept her mouth shut. The wife often knew about the mistress, but as long as she had the name, the house and the children, she also stayed quiet. Obviously, the new breed of “mistress” has little in common with her classier forerunners.
There are better terms to describe the strippers, nightclub hostesses, cocktail waitresses and porn stars who’ve mined their indiscretions for big bucks payoffs—like hooker, whore, skank and slut. I wish the media would stop honoring these calculating bimbos with the term “mistress” and call them what they really are.
“Mistress” or Whore?
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July 14, 2009 at 5:34 pm
i’m with you. my wife is hiring a belly dancer to give lessons at her birthday party this year! fun will be had by all!
July 14, 2009 at 6:08 pm
Belly dancing versus stripping is not a comparison of apples to apples, oranges to oranges. There’s not a whole lot of belly dancers out there, and the ones I’ve seen could be easily confused for a camel (thinking of one in Dubai in particular). Now, strippers are practically ubiquitous, particularly in California (if she’s not one already, she seems to aspire to be one). I’m going with the stripper – more girls in the pool, therefore more really, really HOT ones
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Now, if you take a set of identical twins, one belly dancing, the other stripping …
Oops. Got to go get that cold shower now.
July 14, 2009 at 6:32 pm
It has been my experience that men prefer to leave something to their imagination.. belly dancing intrigues, flirts, entices and leave the man to imagine. Which creates a very charged encounter…
July 14, 2009 at 6:45 pm
This is for real..
This morning I was feeling blue about my ~Curves~
and Started doing BellyDancing in my Kitchen.
and I felt so much better,and more sexy then ever!
I am now Going to check for classes in my area!
July 14, 2009 at 6:56 pm
Interesting article. I have to say that a Belly Dancer is a little more exotic and erotic now days than most so called “exotic dancers” aka strippers. Yes pole dancing is somewhat a fitness craze but learning the different ways to shimmy can be very hard as I learned by trying to some of the moves on the show Shimmy on Fit tv. Got give to those ladies that make Belly Dancing seem so effortless and beautiful.
July 14, 2009 at 7:43 pm
I have had belly dancers , strippers and “girlfriend-strippers” and I prefer gf-strippers , in other words a lover who will dance for you . Real strippers are-so what. I haven’t been inside a strip club in eleven years.
Belly dancers are a fun divertment in a mediterranean reastaurant. But. A girlfriend who will dance for you , not necessarily take her clothes off, but erotically DANCE for you, she’s a real find. BTW, I have had two “cougar” girlfriends(43 and 45) and they. rocked. my. world.
July 14, 2009 at 7:43 pm
I’ve always thought belly-dancing was sexier. My Grand-Mother always said, “Only show a man half of your ass!”; meaning keep the mystique and his imagination wondering. Although, there are some very talented/artistic stippers out there, it’s always seemed more erotic to watch a belly-dancer. I’ll be starting belly-dancing lessons soon. Even if I don’t dance for anyone but myself, I will love my curves!
May 10, 2010 at 7:18 am
If you’re dancing for anyone other than yourself, then you have the wrong idea about bellydance.
“Bellydance,” or “rak sharqui” is a FOLK dance, indulged in by men, women, and children of the Middle East. It’s a dance of joy and celebration, done at family gatherings, parties, and weddings. Yes, bellydance has been packaged and glamourized for tourists and Western audiences, and although there is a struggle to educate the general public to help them realize it’s a legitimate art form, it still suffers from social stigma, and the ERRONEOUS bull malarky of “bellydance for your sultan.” I don’t dance for men—I dance for MYSELF.
You enter the stage on gossamer wings,
Unveiling like a flower in bloom,
Every eye is fastened upon you
As your presence electrifies the room.
Moving as though one with the music,
The audience is spellbound by your confident grace,
Though you give all to those who are watching,
You see veiled disapproval in almost every face.
“Bravo, little bellydancer,
Cute costume, pretty face,
BUT you are just the bellydancer,
So you’d better know your place.”
“Bravo, little bellydancer!
We applaud you, well done;
Go, go, little bellydancer,
BUT don’t ever think of marrying MY son.”
I am a little bellydancer,
Yet I dance to please no man,
I dance for joy, for love of life,
Don’t judge what you don’t understand.
I am not some soulless, nameless face,
Nor am I a harlot for hire,
I’m indeed a lady, I KNOW my place,
I stand with dignity, and hope to inspire
others who suffer from small-minded views,
looked down upon for following their heart,
Struggling to educate those who don’t realize
That what they are doing IS art.
I am a little bellydancer,
Yet I dance to please no man,
I dance for joy, for love of life,
Don’t judge what you don’t understand.
~~~Farasha Hanem
bellydancer
May 31, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Eloquent words…I can feel it and sense the rhythms, both within and without. Only just learning (at 50!) to love my sensuous curves. Thank you for the music, the dance, and the poetry.
July 14, 2009 at 7:57 pm
Bellydancing: it’s not about pleasing others. It’s about pleasing yourself. It’s about what’s hidden, hinted at and never revealed. It’s the undulation, not the thrust; the tiny hand gestures, a flick of the wrist, an eyebrow raise, a hip shimmy… small things are sexy.
Anyone who thinks bellydancing is mere spectacle in a restaurant hasn’t seen proper bellydancing, much less experienced its beauty or mystery.
July 14, 2009 at 7:58 pm
I prefer belly dancers to strippers. Love the jewelry and the clothes.
July 14, 2009 at 8:06 pm
I have scene both genres of dancing that are mentioned here. I enjoy watching belly dancing for the same reasons mentioned here by the very informative contributors. I will, however, side with the sexier dance to be the stripper. My reasons for selecting the strip dance are as follows:
Recently, probably due to the challenging economy, dancers at strip clubs have been forced to elevate their dancing to compete for the all mighty dollar. Although I don’t frequent these establishments, the times that I have gone, were very enjoyable.
I have also noticed that some of the dancers have had “some” training in various modes of dance. This could also be due to the economy, where women who used to be able to dance in “mainstream” venues are forced to work in the strip clubs.
And finally, at strip clubs, you are able to pick and chose the women you care to watch. Therefore, the “fantasy girl “perfect 10″ “model type” fantasy is met. Once again, I find both genres very sexy and stimulating, but if I had to chose only one to watch, I would side with the strip tease for the reasons mentioned. Have a great evening! Dave @dwo34
July 14, 2009 at 8:40 pm
As long as I leave with some teensy folded Franklins, I’ll strip or belly with the best of em
May 10, 2010 at 8:37 am
1. If you’re going to bellydance, take lessons.
2. If you’re just doing it for the money, you’re missing the point. Respect the culture from which this dance comes from. It’s not your own.
July 14, 2009 at 8:56 pm
Well what an interesting concept. It would never have entered my mind to compare the two but I like that you’re making me think about it.
I agree that belly dancers are beautiful, seductive, voluptuous and have the curves of real women. Yes, there are some very attractive strippers but the typical body type is thin with large (usually fake) breasts. Sexy, but not soft and feminine like a belly dancer.
Belly dancing requires a certain finesse and beautiful movements. If a stripper has a cute body and face, she can get away with crawling around on the floor and men will find that hot.
I’m assuming that with men, it probably depends on the man. Some are going to find strippers more desirable and others will appreciate the belly dancers for the exotic, talented ladies they are.
July 14, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Give me a sweet, cuddly stripper in VIP over a long distance belly dancer anytime. Remember, strippers can hug and rub you in VIP; Belly dancers cannot (At least from what I have seen on TV..LoL!) Peace.
July 14, 2009 at 9:43 pm
i can tell you this much…my husband is not into belly dancers but a good looking stripper yes in deedy. i’ve been to strip clubs with groups of couples & have had a blast. there’s something sleezy about it but yet sexy and fun. belly dancers i’ve never thought to be sexy in anyway…fun maybe, but that’s about it. personally there’s something strange about belly dancers to me. not sure what it is exactly but it’s almost uncomfortable. not sure if you can cross that line of sexy vs. entertaining and you never really know what a belly dancer is thinking…a stripper you do…$$$
May 10, 2010 at 7:25 am
If you’ve read my previous post, you now know what one bellydancer thinks.
July 14, 2009 at 9:58 pm
Hey everyone..I didn’t write this fabulous piece..I may have in a dream..because you know what..It is word for word what I dreamt..Does Tomkat know my address and secretly got inside my head..to borrow these words..I wholeheartedly agree that Belly Dancers are way better with their movements than any Stripper..at least Belly Dancers go slowly, smoothly and with a sense of rhythm which most strippers can only dream about..yeah back to that dream..I didn’t write this masterpiece..I wish I had..Thanks Tomkat..you’re in my head now.. ♥
July 14, 2009 at 11:37 pm
Fab article…and I so agree! I must take a “refresher” bellydancing course! This form of dancing is so sensual & intoxicating…the best way to develope lust & fantasy, I believe! Thank you, TomKat!
July 14, 2009 at 11:54 pm
Belly dancers embody grace, fertility, & flirty eroticism. Strippers embody stoic disdain, crass nudity, & 2 drink minimums.
July 15, 2009 at 2:11 am
I agree. Every women should take up belly dancing. The outfit doesn’t have to hit the floor. That should keep most women comfortable.
July 15, 2009 at 6:57 am
Stripper. And because what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, I can’t elaborate! =)
July 15, 2009 at 9:00 am
Stripper gets my vote! Between the Belly dancing lessons, and the Stripper Workout sessions, both were a blast, I had more fun and gained more muscle tone with the Stripper Workouts!
July 15, 2009 at 2:11 pm
If you’re doing it for yourself: belly dancing. If you’re dancing for your man: stripper. Belly dancing can be erotic, but when is the last time you heard men talking about going to a belly dancing club? Here’s a hint; it rhymes with HER0.
But to be fair, timid men, slower-paced men, or men simply trying to relax rather than get reved up, may prefer the belly dancing because it’s more sensual and less aggressive. However, all strippers aren’t pole-swinging acrobats either. stripping has many forms and many speeds for many moods. belly dancing pretty much has several variations of SLOW (which isn’t bad, but lacks variety as far as pace).
Stripping wins for me 7-3. I appreciate both art forms, and the choice ultimately boils down to the mood you’re trying to set.
May 10, 2010 at 7:35 am
Not all bellydance is slow:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qRRwzfoCVNg&playnext_from=TL&videos=CZVwPUMb5no
July 15, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Belly Dancer – more intriguing, alluring + I always wanted to eat that gem (substitute with a small food item, perhaps?) outta her belly-button. Just sayin…
July 20, 2009 at 12:45 pm
Proof again that men love mystery LOL Thanks
August 30, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Belly dancing is an ancient art that requires skill to master. A stripper just needs a set of plastic tits and a pair of lucite heels with compartments for her tips.
September 11, 2009 at 8:35 pm
Belly dancing! Strippers make me sad.
May 10, 2010 at 8:23 am
Unbelievable that the two words are used in the same sentence really. Bellydance is the visual representation of middle eastern music. That it happens to be sensual and beautiful is a by-product of the dancer’s own enjoyment and love of the music, and his or her ability to portray this in movement. Maybe it’s this natural pleasure that is so appealing to people who watch (not all bellydancers are women, btw).
Stripping is primarily about obtaining money from watchers by gradually removing clothing, it’s ALL about sexuality. No wonder some strippers look so disinterested, and why plastic and silicon are so prevalent. Sex without intimacy is sad.
May 10, 2010 at 7:14 pm
Comparing Belly Dance to stripping..omg. Not even in the same family. Unless there’s some folk stripping dancing that I’m uneducated about….lol. I mean would you compare Ballet Dancing to Stripping…~shakes head~
June 10, 2010 at 9:14 pm
I’m not interested in strippers. Beautiful bellydancers are *far* more erotic — and *beautiful* as an expresion of WOMAN. A beautiful bellydancer in total command of the power of her body is far more sensual. The beautiful belly is one thing, but a bellydancer tantalizing with her magnificent breasts is the expression of power and beauty beyond description. Thank you to all the wonderful dancers out there who practice their ART for our benefit and PLEASURE.