Is He “Not Ready for a Relationship”–or Not Ready for You?

Ladies, it might interest you to know that few men who say they are not ready for a relationship really mean it that way. Though it may be hard to accept, if they feed you that line, it really means that they are not fully interested in you! When a guy is interested in you, he will call, no matter how busy he is. He will make sure that he “reserves” you for himself. He will make sure you have plans for the weekend–and the plans are with him. If you’ve been in a relationship for longer than three months, and have to ask where you stand in the relationship, you might as well sit down because the bad news is coming (unless of course, he strings you along with a lie)!

So, you go out on a date, have a fabulous time, feel real chemistry for the guy, but it’s been a week and you haven’t heard from him yet. If a guy hasn’t called after a week, HE’S JUST NOT INTERESTED! Women are always trying to analyze why a guy is not calling. Sometimes the woman wonders if she should call him. The answer is NO. When a man is interested, he will not only call you, but he will make sure that you know he is interested. Often times a man knows that he isn’t interested in seeing a woman again, but he can’t face rejecting or hurting her, so he just won’t call. Most men aren’t comfortable calling to say, “I had a great time, thanks and good luck, have a good life.” Or, “You’re really nice, but I just don’t want to take you out again.” Especially when they run the risk of the woman confronting him and asking “Why?”

Do not sit there and think of 101 reasons he may not be calling. It’s so tempting to make up excuses for the guy like, “He’s so busy at work, or “He just got out of a long-term relationship and needs his space.” Or my personal favorite, “He told me that he’s in the middle of moving.” But none of these excuses will stop a determined man. When a man meets the right woman, nothing stops him from calling or trying to see her. And nowadays with numerous means of contact–cell phones, faxes, blackberries, e-mail, etc.–there is no excuse for not getting in touch.

When a Guy Is Interested, He Will “Reserve” You for Himself

Ever try to figure out what’s going on in a guy’s head about how serious he is about you? Here’s what guys say about how and when they know she’s “The one.”

 1.”I just want to be with her. She is always on my mind, even when I am at work.”

2.”I just get a gut feeling, like this girl is “The One.”

3.” I like the way my friends like her. They are always commenting, “She’s really a great gal,” or “You two are really good together,” and “She’s really down to earth. Really nice and friendly.”

4.”I feel like I can bring her home to meet my family and be proud.”

5.”I just want to be with her, and only her.”

6.”I like everything about her. I love the way she walks and carries herself. I love the way she smells. She’s so feminine. ”

7.”I feel comfortable around her. I feel I can be myself.”

8.”I feel like I want to protect her and do special things for her.”

9.”She is so sexy, a real turn-on, and at the same time she is really classy and elegant. I am proud to show her off.

10.”I just love her looks, the way she smells and how nicely she takes care of herself. It makes me think she’ll always do that.”

11.I can really imagine her being the mother of my children.”

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