The NY Times Looks at Cougars
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An article in Wednesday’s New York Times gives a better-than-average look at cougars. The first paragraph pretty much echoes what I feel about a certain TV series.
“Over the transom the other day came an urgent “Cougar Alert”: There is a new book out, and this one distinguishes the real cougar, a confident, strong, single woman over 40, from the comically desperate predator-seductress depicted in television shows like ‘Cougar Town,’ one of the latest products of Hollywood’s obsession with the older woman.”
Thanks for noticing, NYT! Another good point came from Sandra L. Caron, a professor of family relations and human sexuality at the University of Maine.
“For a long time we’ve been fed this idea that women should look for a man to take care of her, a man that is more educated, has a better job and makes more money. That might be fine and dandy if you’re in high school and have this fairy tale Prince Charming. But when you look at adult women, most are self-sufficient and they don’t have to look for that.”
Linda Franklin, author of the new book, “Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am! The Real Cougar Woman Handbook” summed up what many of us are feeling today. “What you see on TV in no way bears any reality to women in real life. These women take very good care of themselves, they are financially independent, and they are making different choices. That certainly does not make them desperate.” Damn straight!
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Lately a lot of famous married men seem to be stepping out on their wives—and getting caught. The main reason they get caught is that the women they’re cheating with rat them out to the press. Who know why guys like Tiger Woods, Jesse James and David Boreanaz have steak at home, but insist on going out for dogburgers? But the motives of their consorts are pretty obvious—fame and money. The press insists on referring to these women as “mistresses.”
In days of old, a “mistress” was a woman who was “kept” by a married man, often a wealthy one. The “other woman” respected her man’s wife and family, and in return for being supported in style, she kept her mouth shut. The wife often knew about the mistress, but as long as she had the name, the house and the children, she also stayed quiet. Obviously, the new breed of “mistress” has little in common with her classier forerunners.
There are better terms to describe the strippers, nightclub hostesses, cocktail waitresses and porn stars who’ve mined their indiscretions for big bucks payoffs—like hooker, whore, skank and slut. I wish the media would stop honoring these calculating bimbos with the term “mistress” and call them what they really are.
“Mistress” or Whore?
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October 17, 2009 at 2:47 am
A real cougar would have landed my very hot 21-year-old neighbor. I never pounced. He moved. Oh well. Next! lol